My co-worker just announced her pregnancy with twins to us yesterday.
For some reason, when she announced she's pregnant, I didn't think much of it, but when she said she's pregnant with twins some of my co-workers and I were more excited.
I guess it's a bit universal to have fantasies about being twins.
It also struck close to home because my co-worker is only 2 years older than I am.
She was telling us how she's a bit devastated now that she realizes she can never go out and wine and dine like she used to.
(She's one of the biggest foodie I know)
So I started listing things that I can no longer do if I were a pregnant woman.
Once the babies come, I can never do these until they learn to behave: watch movies in theaters, go to fine restaurants, travel on planes, travel in general, be spontaneous, spend in excess (not that I do now anyway), go out at night, go out after work, go out with friends, go to parties...etc.
It does sound terrible. All of a sudden my excitement for the baby arrival dissipated. I didn't think of all these stuff until now because, as a man, I am pretty much removed from carrying a baby. Now that I think of it, men do not really deal with having a baby, or it won't seem as eminent to men, because men do not have a baby in their belly and have to watch what they eat or do.
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I think I'm scared of sleeping with a female more because of the pregnancy factor than me being gay.
@secade - Keep telling yourself that
Oh...what wonders Freud thinks of...
Oh...the defense mechanism... XD
@Wangium - Defense mechanisms? Oh, pleeeeeeeeeze, I already admitted that I'm homo, mister.
But you can still blog - hahahaha....
Fatherhood... I guess I come close to it through being an uncle.
Can't really connect with the gestation period but I do remember
taking real care of my sister-in-law and such.
The most intense memory was when my sis-in-law was in labour.
The anxiety and excitement... and actually holding the tiny little bundle of life
that is such a wonderful feeling!
Yeah, parenthood is never easy and lotsa lifestyle changes have to be made
to accommodate a new life into the family, lotsa pain and anxiety and inconvenience
but the gain is also much.
becoming a parent is like anything else in life - it has it's pros and its cons. for me, adopting my son was the best thing that's ever happened to me - sure there's been pain, even recently, but i wouldn't trade him & my grandkids for all the money in the world! peace, Al
You know, different countries have a different approach to what parents can or cannot do after having children. Americans really seem to lock themselves at home, unwilling to get a sitter or leave the children with relatives for a night out on the town. It is unfortunate, because you see so many examples where parents seem a little resentful of their children. They need to still make some time for themselves, I think.
Congratulations to your coworker, though.
I think it's sad that us men will never experience that intimate closeness that a mother has to their children because of the pregnancy experience. Not to say I would want to be pregnant but just that special closeness I see in all my female friends and their children.
I think I would adopt a baby if I had the means to do that, even though I may have to sacrifice a lot of stuff which you mentioned.
the scary thing about having twins is that if you only planned on having one and you don't have money for two...
btw, some of those things you can still do as a pregnant woman and/or when you've got a baby! just won't be as much as before x_x. uh yeah. being a woman sucks.